treatise on tender

have i ever written to you about my preference for tender? tender, to me, is a better thing than lust, love, wonder…its that divine combination of friendship and devotion, knowledge and pain and overcoming your smaller self for the sake of just one other person. tonight i saw someone, and we sat together, and we stood around, and we didn’t look at each other at the same time, and i was so happy to be there, and i felt like – just tender.

this training i am in is intense, and i have turned the corner with it, i sort of love all the people here now, or at least a significant contingent. but the hard long hours and lack of sleep and breaks makes me all that much more vulnerable. i need the outlet, the other sort of attention that is completely unprofessional and imperfect. so there you go – i had a tender evening and i tucked it immediately into my whole larger history of tender experiences, those more addictive than jamesons… :)

in the meantime…

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2 Responses to “treatise on tender”


  1. 1 Jessamyn

    hey beautiful woman! thank you for writing and reaching out to the world. i just want to send you a tender loving kiss from all the way over here in lovely frisco. stay strong! can’t wait to see you next week… i’m writing you while sitting buzzed on my couch next to my crazy roommate samhita…talking about racial dynamics in relationships in a hella hilarious ny inapropriate sort o way…munchin out on cheetos and hagen daz coffee ice cream…what! (“fertile grounds ahead” was the last thing my girl said?!)

    anyway, miss adrienne, don’t forget to breathe, be thankful for the moment and your body and all the experiences you’ve cherished, and realize that you’ve chosen exactly what you have received (courtesy of my girl danielle recently). enjoy! even through the sickness…

    much love to you mama!

    xoxoxo,
    jessamyn

  2. 2 Adrienne

    loveyou too girl!!!

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