once I got to bow down to my teacher. the day, nine years ago, was a rough one. I’ve recently remembered it in the form of a story a few […]
Year: 2019
gratitudes, June 2019
gratitudes: sitting on a back porch dancing to rhythms from 2 parties in bk, in my slippers and drawers i got to flip a table today i got to eat […]
Motor City Pride: A Speech Unspoken
I wrote the following words as a speech to introduce Tunde Olaniran, the headliner for motor city pride. Then I got caught up in feelings and just spoke from the […]
moved to tears
lately i’ve been crying a lot. moved to tears at least once a day. this morning my nibbling, who just turned 9, sang me songs that she created, played on […]
relinquishing the patriarchy
dear men. this is mostly a note to straight, cis men; but also includes trans men, queer men, and all who participate in masculinity – if you see yourself in […]
my mom though
it’s a couple of days after mother’s day, but right now is when i feel flooded with gratitude to my mom. she is kind, and fiercely loyal. she is infinitely […]
don’t call it a comeback: white throated rail!
“The Aldabra white-throated rail, a flightless bird that lives on its namesake atoll in the Indian Ocean, doesn’t look like anything special at first glance. But the small bird has […]
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Lizzo, Goddess
i remember when someone sent me the @fatyonce account on instagram, how fantastical and amusing and nourishing it was to me just to see that dreamed up intersection of confidence […]
surviving trolls
in the past few months, i have had a chance to talk with a number of people who have had scary/awful/overwhelming interactions with mass trolling online. kind of an informal […]
Building Accountable Communities (speech on strategies for ending and recovering from harm)
Harm is an external wound to your wholeness. More than a bump, an accident. Harm is what convinces us that in this abundant world, we only deserve to survive. Convinces […]